Dating Apps Left Me Wondering: Do Men Not Want to Have Sex?
“Third base is the in-person meetup, which is the least frequent outcome on dating apps.”
Modern Romance
Love, the lack of love, and being a good human to other humans.
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#188China Bans AI Romantic Partners, Virtual Relatives for Minors
...any services deemed as designed to foster emotional connection and interaction.
The Cult of the Enhanced Self
“Health is becoming the new status marker and, perhaps, the ultimate status signal.”
No, the iPhone (probably) didn't lower the birth rate
“Besides the iPhone, what else was happening from 2008-2011? The Great Recession.”
Online dating apps actually increased the share of single people
Despite their promise to help people find love, dating apps have coincided with a significant increase in the number of single adults since online dating's popularization
Far-right groups prey on it: Olivia Laing on the weaponisation of loneliness
Even the lonely have a tendency to believe that loneliness is their own fault, a product of something essentially dislikable in their own being.
America's Real Social Crisis Is the Rise of Solitude
“The problem isn’t that men are lonely. The problem is that many men wouldn’t recognize loneliness if it punched them in the gut and poured a beer on their head.”
A Knicks Win Could Do Wonders for Your Sex Life
“A “goal-gasm,” if you will.”
OnlyFantasy
An emotional marketplace.
Girls Carrying Shit, Girls Who Cluster, and Girl Dinner Diaries
We are living through a moment when people have never been more visible, and yet often feel profoundly unseen.
Why so many young people are training to be death doulas
“What’s more rewarding at the end of the day? A half a percentage increase in KPI, or connecting with a human being on a very real level?”
AI Startup Says It Will Pay People $2,000 a Month to Masturbate—Yes, Really
“The four-week role is open to adults 18 and older in the U.S. and the U.K.”
Do Unstylish Men Deserve Love?
In fact, I think it is quite chic for a woman to aesthetically outshine her partner. It suggests a good deal of confidence on his part, and a self-assuredness on hers.
The rise in plastic surgeons asked to create ‘AI face’
“Make me look like more of a chad,” I then instructed the chatbot.”
The Quiet Grief of Adult Friendship
“Nobody teaches you how painful it feels to slowly lose access to someone who once knew your inner life intimately.”
Let's Hear It for Small Dicks and Short Sex!
It could only be explained as men trying to disguise their wants as ours.
Arousal Quantified: 7 Trends Revealed via Pornhub's Data
“What millions of searches and clicks say about sexual desire”
Gazing Into Sam Altman's Orb Now Proves You're Human on Tinder
“Tinder users around the globe can now put a digital badge on their profiles signaling to potential suitors that they're a real human, provided they've already stared into one of World's glossy white Orbs and allowed their eyes to be scanned”
Japanese Aquarium Drops 2026 Version of Flowchart Illustrating Their Penguin Relationships. This Year There's an English Version.
“Two aquariums in Japan have been keeping obsessive tabs on their penguins, maintaining annual flowcharts that visualizes all their penguin drama”
Swingers at Sea: Fantasy Cruise
An exploration of the swinging lifestyle aboard a fantasy cruise, where couples explore boundaries on the open seas
The loneliness crisis isn't just male
“when you look at the data, the "antisocial crisis," as I like to call it, is actually most pronounced among young women, who experience the highest rates of social isolation”
Dear Men: Looksmaxxing Won't Save You (But Silliness Might)
“These are just tricks to perform masculinity for others rather than to examine it for ourselves.”
OpenAI adult mode erotic chatbot shelved indefinitely
“Mental health experts worried sexualized bots could turn into a "sexy suicide coach" for users”
My Sweet, Smart Boyfriend Got Sucked into the Manosphere
“I was constantly walking on eggshells around him and essentially apologizing for existing”
What happens when you have a 13-year affair with your therapist
“According to the documents, they began the meetings by talking and concluded by having sex.”
Meet the New Era of Girlbosses
“They want to be rich and successful but don't want to hold a job. They want to have a woman at home to cook and clean and bear their children but still want to live a bachelor lifestyle and sleep around without consequences. Above all, though, they want to feel like an alpha male while playing the role of a misunderstood victim.”
The Great Friendship Flattening
“Our relationships are becoming a part of that consumption behavior.”
Sex Workers Versus the Algorithm
“I did not get into porn to format .pdfs.”
The stranger secret: how to talk to anyone – and why you should
“I realised that there is a sort of unwritten code you learn as you get older, which enables you to assess whether a conversation is a good idea or not.”
The Truth About Dating Younger Women
“If she is younger than your adult children, they will never forgive you for fucking their classmate.”
The century of the maxxer
“The maxxer is not trying to have an enjoyable life. He’s trying to reduce himself to a single principle.”
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ChatGPT, Claude Infiltrate Dating Apps by Helping Singles Flirt With Matches
Bloomberg
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“a phenomenon where the connection that develops over text is with the AI model's charm, not the person relying on it for dating advice”
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The incredible freedom of not trying to look good
The Atlantic
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How much space might be freed up for other endeavors if those of us who find the whole thing exhausting just … took our attention elsewhere?
- Friendship Startups for Loneliness Have a Business Model Problem Bloomberg Sent #186
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While worker robots boom, sex robots have busted
Business Insider
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Goblin dolls are a really hot trend now, Formosa's rep tells me.
- The love of your life is 5'7" TikTok Sent #182
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Hooters Restaurant Chain Is Trying to Rebrand as Family-Friendly
The New York Times
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“I’ve asked my friends, ‘Is it weird we take our kids to Hooters?’” she said. “They’re like, ‘Yeah.”
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Why birth rates are falling everywhere all at once
The Financial Times
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there is a “fertility gap” between goals and outcomes, due to frictions and frustrations that have much to do with modern lifestyles — including our homes and, increasingly, our phones.
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Guardian Blind Dates: 17 Years of Data
blinddates.rory.codes
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“The shape of a nation trying, with varying success, to fall in love over the starters.”
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You can never say the wrong thing to the right person
Tanner Devore
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You're not feeling like you're being hushed or shut down or belittled for being yourself.
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The collapse of teen fertility in the digital era
Marginal Revolution
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#179
“Once enough teens are on the phone, being on the phone is where the peer network is; in-person time falls sharply, and with it the unstructured contact in which most unintended teen conceptions occur.”
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Why Smut Is Here to Stay
Vanity Fair
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#178
“I think people look back and remember how exciting it was when something was forbidden.”
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Love Story 90s Nostalgia
Wall Street Journal
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“There's an article in the WSJ by someone calling herself a 'X-ennial' waxing nostalgic about the 'totally lame' 1990s”
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The New Infidelity
The Atlantic
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“For some of my friends, the celebrities a romantic partner follows can be just as big a dealbreaker as parenting or financial choices.”
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Maybe you should leave
Aakash Gupta
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“50% of all relationship advice on Reddit is “leave.”
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The six-second hug
Aeon
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#173
“For a long time, I have been privately lamenting the instrumentalisation of everything: how nothing seems to be of value in itself anymore but is only seen as useful in the service of some utilitarian function.”
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The largest dataset on human sexuality ever assembled
Big Kink Survey
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“The largest survey dataset on human sexuality in the world is now yours to explore!”
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Handsome at Any Cost
The New York Times
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“Because, like all Looksmaxxers, he believes any step toward increasing his beauty to be virtuous.”